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Read Harder: A Memoir By Someone From a Religious Tradition Not Your Own

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Kim Ukura

Staff Writer

Kim Ukura is a book lover, recovering journalist, library advocate, cat mom, and lover of a good gin cocktail. In addition to co-hosting Book Riot’s nonfiction podcast, For Real, and co-editing Book Riot’s nonfiction newsletter, True Story, Kim spends her days working in communications at a county library system in the Twin Cities area. Kim has a BA in English and journalism from a small liberal arts college in Minnesota, and a master’s in journalism from the University of Wisconsin, Madison. When not getting to bed before 10 p.m., Kim loves to read nonfiction, do needlework projects, drink tea, and watch the Great British Baking Show. Instagram: @kimthedork Twitter: @kimthedork

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I didn’t grow up going to church or practicing any particular faith, which makes it feel a little odd that one of my favorite nonfiction rabbit holes is religious memoirs.

While I’m particularly drawn to books written by people who have left a religious sect or tradition, I also love reading stories from people who remain deeply committed to their faith. This list of books tries to include a mix of both kinds of personal stories.

Inspired: Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible Again by Rachel Held Evans

Rachel Held Evans was a bright young thinker in the Evangelical Christian movement before she died in 2019. Inspired is her most recent book, a quest “to better understand what the Bible is and how it is meant to be read.” She uses religious scholarship and literary analysis to dig into Bible stories and grapples with some of the Bible’s most difficult stories. Any of her books would be great picks for this challenge.

Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots by Deborah Feldman

Deborah Feldman grew up in the Satmar sect of Hasidic Judaism, governed by a set of customs about wardrobe, friendships, education, and more. As a teenager she found herself in a dysfunctional marriage to a man she didn’t know, but found the strength to leave after giving birth to her son. This choice allowed her the chance to live independently and on her own terms.

Unashamed: Musings of a Fat, Black Muslim by Leah Vernon

Leah Vernon grew up with a lot of messages about what a “good” Muslim girl would do or should be. In this book, she challenges these ideas by writing about “her love-hate relationship with her hijab and her faith, race, weight, mental illness, domestic violence, sexuality, the millennial world of dating, and the process of finding her voice.” Vernon is an inspiration, and her Instagram feed is a true joy.

Beyond Belief: My Secret Life Inside Scientology and My Harrowing Escape by Jenna Miscavige Hill

Jenna Miscavige Hill grew up in the upper ranks of the Church of Scientology, but left in 2005. In this book, she shares what it was like to grow up in the controversial religion, including her experiences in Sea Org, “the church’s highest ministry.” Since leaving, Hill has been a prominent critic of the church and works to help other people leave the organization.

Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church by Megan Phelps-Roper

Similarly, Megan Phelps-Roper grew up related to the leadership of the Westboro Baptist Church in Topeka, Kansas. As a child, she protested “homosexuality and other alleged vices” with the church. As an adult, she was a spokeswoman who also ran the church’s Twitter account, engaging critics online. Over time, these exchanges caused her to doubt the church, eventually causing a “moral awakening” that caused her to depart from the church. TW for homophobic language.

Born With Wings: The Spiritual Journey of a Modern Muslim Woman by Daisy Khan

Daisy Khan was raised by a progressive Muslim family in India before coming to the United States to attend high school in Long Island. She moved ahead with her career as an architectural designer in New York City, before deciding something was missing in her life. At the advice for a friend, she visited a mosque in Tribeca, eventually finding community and a relationship there. Since marrying the mosque’s imam, she’s been a leading women’s advocate working to educate young Muslims around the world.

Casting Lots: Creating a Family in a Beautiful, Broken World by Susan Silverman

Susan Silverman’s parents were atheists, which is why most people in her family were surprised when she decided to become a rabbi. Over time, she’s built a sprawling family through birth and adoption, a family that’s become “a metaphor for the world’s contradictions and complexities.” This book is a look at identity, faith, and belonging.

The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by the Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu, and Douglas Carlton Abrams

In 2015, Archbishop Tutu and the Dalai Lama sat down together in India for a week-long contemplation on one of life’s biggest questions: how do we find joy in the face of life’s inevitable suffering? This book captures that conversation, bringing together their stories, experiences, and philosophies to explore this question. This book isn’t about any religion specifically, but the emphasis on joy and finding happiness in our difficult world makes it a compelling and hopeful read.


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