This is my second annual 30 tiny lessons from 30 memoirs. This year, the books had all had this strange harmony of family, healing and finding your voice. From the jewel toned beauty of Corfu to the bustle of Nigeria to the small beauty of a garden in Bloomington Indiana, each of these books taught me something about grace.
Here is to 2020 and another 30 memoirs.
Deep Creek: Finding Hope in the High Country By Pam Houston
Lesson: There is a deep solace in solitude, space and getting snowed in. The power of the mountains conquers even the darkest memories and the magic works even better when we share it with others.
Claiming Ground By Laura Bell
Lesson: The Wyoming wind only calls a select few, but those it does are a lucky bunch—Caluses, sunburn, frostbite, hardship and all.
The Book of Delights By Ross Gay
Lesson: Even in a world scarred by division and greed, there are moments of great beauty, kindness and delight. Stick your hands in the dirt more while you are at it.
The Solace of Open Spaces By Gretel Ehrlich
Lesson: There is a power to being a border walker between rural and urban. Those who can walk this fence line of culture and place slice through every kind nonsense and get straight to the core of who we are.
Welcome to the Goddamn Ice Cube: Chasing Fear and Finding Home in the Great White North by Blair Braverman
Lesson: Home doesn’t have a uniform. For some, it is the warmth of the tropics; for others, it’s a desert. For those like Blair Braverman, it is made of ice, snow, and lots and lots of dogs.
My Family and Other Animals By Gerald Durrell
Lesson: Often the wildest thing we can find is not exotic animals or poisonous plants, but the antics of our family members.
The Collected Schizophrenias: Essays By Esmé Weijun Wang
Lesson: Our illnesses do not define us. However, those same maladies often give us powerful perspectives that must be shared.
The Salt Path By Raynor Winn
Lesson: Cornwall isn’t just Doc Martin and Poldark; it is a complicated place with very modern problems. Never the less when the world collapses around your feet, put on your walking shoes and head sound of crashing waves.
All Ships Follow Me: A Family Memoir of War Across Three Continents By Mieke Eerkens
Lesson: Trauma is one of the ugly family secrets that defies oceans, cultures and World Wars and the best thing we can do is understand it.
Lesson: Tom Phalen finds out that his uncle kept a letter Tom had written about Ireland under his pillow as he lay dying. We never know how our words impact people, and often the most interesting characters are not in books or on TV but across our kitchen tables.
Rough Magic: Riding the World’s Loneliest Horse Race By Laura Prior Palmer
Lesson: Take risks. Big things can happen, even galloping across the Mongolian steppe on semi-feral horses.
The Farmer’s Son: Calving Season on a Family Farm By John Connell
Lesson: To become the person we want to be, often we have to return home, put on our work boots, and get in the mud. Cows, sheep, and Connemara ponies often have more to teach us than we ever give them credit for.
The Grassling By Elizabeth-Jane Burnett
Lesson: The land we live on can often be a save for grief and a muse for art.
The Reckoning: Essays on Justice for the Twenty-First Century by Lacy M. Johnson
Lesson: Many women are carefully taught to be silent, but when we speak we have power. Long live the rise of those unafraid to make us uncomfortable.
My Parents / This Does Not Belong to You By Aleksander Hemon
Lesson: Often our own parents and our family history are not what we remember them being; discovering them anew offers its own kind of magic.
Late Migrations: A Natural History of Love and Loss By Marget Renkl
Lesson: Often our own backyard is the greatest wilderness we need.
We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Lesson: Raise your hands! It is time to de-colonize feminism!
Horizon By Barry Lopez
Lesson: A lifetime of traveling, writing, and seeing the ravages of modern consumerism has made Barry Lopez leery of our Western definition of Success. Perhaps we should be too.
Being a Beast: Adventures Across the Species Divide By Charles Foster
Lesson: Humans are not very well suited for burrowing, flying or swimming in rivers long term, however what we can learn from them makes us better humans. Also, otters are essentially tiny sociopaths.
How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don’t By Lane Moore
Lesson: Figuring out how to love when there is no role model to show you is as challenging, scary, and full of peril as moving to New York City alone. Yet, if Lane Moore has anything to say about it, anything is possible.
Thick: And Other Essays By Tressie McMillian Cottom
Lesson: So much of the value placed on each of us is wrapped up in class, race, and the shape of our bodies. The idea of preference is “a capitalist lies” and the only way to defy it is to talk about it.
Lab Girl by Hope Jahren
Lesson: If you have a dream, build it, and then rebuild it and then rebuild it again, just like Hope Jahren did with her labs. It also helps to have a friend named Bill.
The Witches are Coming by Lindy West
Lesson: The absurdity of the web is often the perfect lense to try to grapple with everything from climate change to racism to American politics. Trust Lindy West—she is the head witch of the internet.
Sightlines by Kathleen Jamie
Lesson: There is magic in slowing down, listening to the wind and wandering far. And often one of the best gifts we can give our children is a deep sense of wonder.
Erosions: Essays of Undoing By Terry Tempest Williams
Lesson: Without erosion, we would not be able to see all of the colors in the stone in the desert. Without grief there is no joy, we must seek the balance of the natural world and fight for what little of that balance is left.
How We Fight For Our Lives: A Memoir By Saeed Jones
Lesson: There is no formula for great writers. Some are raised in the woods; some found their voice in a high rise; others discover there’s someplace in Texas with a cool Buddhist Mom and many things left unsaid.
The Living Mountain by Nan Shepard
Lesson: One of the most incredible forms of empathy is to defy the boundary of humanity and find value in rocks, and cliffs, and the way the wind plays through the mountains.
To Speak for the Trees: My Life’s Journey from Ancient Celtic Wisdom to a Healing Vision of the Forest by Diana Beresford-Kroeger
Lesson: Many cultures around the world are losing their land-based knowledge, yet we are learning that if we take it seriously it is often more scientific, and perhaps even life-changing than we ever thought possible.
The Yellow House by Sarah M. Broom
Lesson: One small house can become the emblem of a family. Its history often echoes through us, even after a storm washes it away.
Lesson: Even if we run from Canada to Guatemala, facing mountain lions, bullying, and a long and painful past, wherever we go there we are—and perhaps this is not such a bad thing.