Resolutions have become something of a punch-line. We all know that come every January 1st the gyms will be packed and that all of our coworkers will start politely declining the proffered sweets that we desperately want to get out of our own homes. Sometimes, though, you just really need to embrace the cliche and make all those life-improving, best-version-of-myself-ever resolutions each January. Be as cynical as you like about it, they work for some people, and how do you know it won’t stick unless you try? So, without further ado, I give you your New Year’s Buy, Borrow, Bypass!
Radical Self-Love: A Guide to Loving Yourself and Living Your Dreams by Gala Darling. I don’t even want to tell you about the book. I want to tell you all about what a kickass babe Gala Darling is and how she has helped save my life (figuratively, if not quite literally) through her Radical Self-Love teachings. She lives the ethos, one that helped her overcome her eating disorder, and lives to spread the message to others. If you are in need of some truly inspiring motivation and help in overcoming your own demons, I cannot recommend this book enough. Seriously.
Verdict: Borrow it from anyone who’s lucky enough to have one of the original self-published editions and pre-order a copy for its February 9th Hay House release!
Adulting: How to Become a Grown-up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps by Kelly Williams Brown. “Adulting” has become a part of my vernacular thanks to Williams Brown’s blog and book. I didn’t read this until I was 28 or 29 and I learned SO MUCH. Don’t think this one will only be helpful if you’re a recent graduate. Although I firmly believe all grads should be gifted with Williams Brown’s foul-mouthed, essential, and delightfully funny self-help guide to life. Learn how to clean your bathtub, what to look for in an apartment lease, and whether or not you’re actually ready for pet parenthood, among many other super important lessons to help you adult like a pro.
Verdict: Buy. This is a valuable reference book. You need it.
Spark Joy: An Illustrated Master Class on the Art of Organizing and Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. Her first book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up was a sensation last year for a very good reason: Kondo’s advice is so simple, but somehow still revolutionary. The Japanese are experts at living in tiny spaces neatly and with a sense of natural balance. In the book, Kondo, a professional cleaning-consultant, breaks down her KonMari method for organization. In Spark Joy we get more of Kondo’s sage wisdom, this time with more category specific advice (e.g. craft supplies, kitchen gadgets, tools, etc.).
Verdict: Borrow. But only because we don’t want that extra clutter lying about.
F*ck Feelings: One Shrink’s Practical Advice for Managing All Life’s Impossible Problems by Michael Bennett, MD & Sarah Bennett. I really wanted to like this book. One of my favorite four letter words is ON THE COVER, for goodness sake. Every review and interview I read when this came out in the Fall just made me want to read it more. I didn’t end up loving it. I ended up putting it down. Maybe I was frustrated by the reality of trying to override all my feels (and I have so very many) in order to follow the Bennett’s – father and daughter – advice: Stop being so emotional about it all and life will be better. I may have been the wrong audience here as I know many others who found this book invaluable.
Verdict: Borrow. Go ahead and give it a shot. Much like medicines, not every self-help title works for everybody and I’d hate to rob you of your perfect book by stamping my grumpy “Bypass” on this one.
Whatever you read, I hope 2016 really is the year of the “best” you. Or, at the very least, that you enjoy the pants off of whatever crazy chaos it throws at you!